I don’t know about you, but I have this image in my mind of who I want my kids to be as adults. Before you go beating me up, yes there was a time when this image included a loving spouse, a great fulfilling career and 2.5 kids in a great school district. Thankfully I have spiritually matured past this. These days this image I have of my kids’ future looks dirtier tougher and even more fulfilling than any career could ever be. My desire now is to see my babies living a servant’s life. My desire is that my kids’ lives are marked by the pain and heartbreak that Jesus experienced as He walked through this fallen world. (But let’s be honest, I’m still hoping that at least one of them has those 2.5 grankids for me!!)
Not too long ago I heard a sermon about next level living. The preacher talked about how over time, your life should be marked by a change for the better. Sports is an area in which this is very clear. Take a great high school basketball player. When she firsts starts playing, she can barely dribble the ball and maybe she only plays a day or two a week. As she matures, she plays more often, eventually daily, and she’s able to dribble with her eyes closed. When she gets to high school, her workouts are more intense than they were years before this. By the time she makes it to college, her workout routine is even more intense. Once she gets drafted by the professional teams, her workouts and practices are much more intense and frequent. This is like the saying, “What got you here won’t get you there.” The same is true in your spiritual walk. Each day should be a maturing effort toward the Standard (Jesus).
One of the points he made that stood out the most to me is this, “Don’t be pharisaical in your walk. You should be pushing your brothers and sisters to be better, rather than looking down on them”. Do you remember the parable Jesus told? Flip over to Luke 18:9-14,
“The Parable of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector
9 He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous and looked down on everyone else: 10 “Two men went up to the temple complex to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee took his stand and was praying like this: ‘God, I thank You that I’m not like other people — greedy, unrighteous, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week; I give a tenth of everything I get.’
13 “But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even raise his eyes to heaven but kept striking his chest and saying, ‘God, turn Your wrath from me — a sinner!’ 14 I tell you, this one went down to his house justified rather than the other; because everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”
In this parable Jesus specifically addresses this pharisaical thinking. It was the fact that this Pharisee was so caught up in his own righteousness, that he forgot the true goal of our lives. Looking down on those around you for any reason, is wrong and against the call of God on our lives. His intent for you being set apart was never so you could sit on a pedestal and look down on the other image bearers around you. His goal was that you could show others that He loves them even in the midst of their sin covered mess….just like He did you!
Our goal isn’t to just make it to Heaven. Our goal is to make it to Heaven and take as many people with us as we can!! This is what’s called being mission minded. This is what I want to see in my children once they become adults. I want my babies to see God’s image all around them and like Jesus, be so moved with compassion that they desire to serve and love on them so much that they ask, “What must I do to be saved?” (Acts 2)
What about you? What is it that your heart desires to see in your children?
Earlier this summer I was at a lectureship. I was struck by so much of the teaching being shared! One of those lessons that won't let me go is the idea of the tent. You've heard the phrase "Big tent, room for all". Perhaps it was in relation to politics. Basically it means that in order to have room for many people, you have to make the bar low for entry and high for removal.
Many outside the church would characterize us by what (or who) we are against rather than what (or who) we believe. Others may even go far enough to call us judgmental (and at times they'd be correct). There are so many organizations, pundits, teachers, politicians, etc. who tell us that we should shop at certain restaurants and stores or that we should vote a certain way or that we should send our kids to specific schools. They would also tell us that if we question this or choose not to, that somehow that's un-Christian of us. Or what about the attire we choose to wear to communal worship services? Or the way we worship Jesus? Or what about the attire of the preacher before us? Can Christians get tattoos or piercings? Can Christians walk around with green and purple hair or a mohawk? Can any of these be backed by scripture? There are many teachers in the church who teach that there is only one way to do many of these things, even when they aren't backed by scripture. Let's take a look at what scripture does have to say.
Flip over to 1 Corinthians 15. Here Paul challenges the church at Corinth of the most important point. This is a really good read and I encourage you to read in its entirety. However for right now let's focus on verses, 12-19.
"12 Now if Christ is proclaimed as raised from the dead, how can some of you say, “There is no resurrection of the dead”? 13 But if there is no resurrection of the dead, then Christ has not been raised; 14 and if Christ has not been raised, then our proclamation is without foundation, and so is your faith. 15 In addition, we are found to be false witnesses about God, because we have testified about God that He raised up Christ — whom He did not raise up if in fact the dead are not raised. 16 For if the dead are not raised, Christ has not been raised. 17 And if Christ has not been raised, your faith is worthless; you are still in your sins. 18 Therefore, those who have fallen asleep in Christ have also perished. 19 If we have put our hope in Christ for this life only, we should be pitied more than anyone.",
1 Corinthians 15:12-19, HCSB
Our faith loses foundation (and we are made to be pitiable liars) without belief in Christ's resurrection! It's not that our beliefs on what we wear to worship service, or what time we meet together, or how often we have group Bible study (or where). It's our belief in the resurrection of Christ Jesus.
Now let's look at another verse, Jude 1:22.
"22Have mercy on those who doubt", Jude 1:22, HCSB
Now we get to the crux of the lesson I attended. As a parent can you make room for your children to move away from some of your traditions, norms and strongly held beliefs as long as they can hold fast to the truth of the resurrection of Christ? As a point of transparency, this scares me a little. However I'm willing to let God mold me into the type of disciple who simply lifts Jesus high and let's Him handle the rest.
I'm not saying that we ignore the wrong decisions or sinful behaviors of our children and call it "having mercy on his doubt". I'm simply saying let's give our children room to grow, learn and have some doubts. Especially if they continue to hold fast to the truth of the resurrection of our savior Jesus Christ!
I heard this as an example not to long ago and thought it was super cool! You could even use this as a visual aid on the importance of integrity and actually “walking worthy of the calling to which you were called.” (Ephesians 4:1)
When you go to the grocery store to buy water, you hand the cold unopened bottle to the cashier. He or she will then scan the black and white rectangle. After this, the computer (cash register) will register that this is a specific brand and size of water along with the price of the item. Now imagine that the same bottle was empty. If we then scanned it, the computer would still register the price, brand and size. And once more let’s pretend that the bottle had been refilled with dirty water. Once again when you scan it, you would still see the same specifications on the screen (price, brand, size).
Maybe you already see the point. There are many people walking around today who if you asked, would label themselves a follower of Christ. They would call themselves a Christian. However, if you were able to cut their spiritual hearts open you wouldn’t see the living water that Christ offers, but rather the filth left behind by sin or maybe the emptiness of a life lived for one’s own pursuits and interests rather than a life lived for Christ. The best way to identify the content is not by the bar code.
Jesus offers another way to know the truth of someone’s master, and its not the bar code. Flip over to Matthew 7.
“15 “Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. 16 By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? 17 Likewise, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them.”, Matthew 7:15-20, NIV
Jesus here is specifically talking about false prophets who come to His children on behalf of satan trying to pull them away from Christ. He tells us to determine their validity by the fruit they are producing. So the question is, what type of fruit are you producing? Or back to our example, what’s in your bottle?
This would be an easy lesson for your kids! Depending on their age, maybe you pour them a glass of water from the good bottle. Maybe you let them collect some dirt from the backyard to put in one of the bottles and explain that our sin is dirty to God and only He can cleanse it from us. There are many directions that this lesson can go. Share it age appropriately!
I don’t know if this ever happens to you, but recently I was doing some reading in Deuteronomy and something hit me differently than it has in the past.
Let’s take a look,
“4 ‘Listen, Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength’ ”, Deut 6:4-5, CSB
In my study, I learned that this is called the Shema in Judaism. ‘Shema’ is the word that is translated here as ‘listen’. It is also the name of a prayer that has been repeated by the Jewish people for many, many generations. This Shema is also the scripture that Jesus quotes later when He is asked “What is the greatest commandment?”. I would say these “coincidences” meet together to mean something big about this scripture.
As interesting as all this is, it’s the next two verses that hit me like a ton of bricks. Take a look,
“6 These words that I am giving you today are to be in your heart. 7 Repeat them to your children. Talk about them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”, Deut 6:6, CSB
Right after Moses gives the children of Israel these immensely important words, he goes into raising children! One of the first times that God gives instructions about parenting, He tells us to teach them God’s ways.
As parents, we are constantly concerned about tomorrow. Young parents are consistently told to enjoy the days of potty training and scraped knees that need kisses or rolling over in the middle of the night to find your frighten toddler in your bed. The reason they are told this is because, especially in the midst of sleeplessness it can be easy to long for a new day in which the “troubles” of today are over; only to look back in nostalgia once they really are over.
Today I want to talk about tomorrow. Today we’re going to talk about legacy. I’m hoping and praying that you’re planning and preparing to leave a rich legacy to your children. However, I’m not talking about money. It is absolutely important to be concerned about your child’s financial well-being in the event that something happens to you. But I’m talking more so about your spiritual legacy. What will you leave behind in that respect?
In the portion of scripture often called the Great Commission, Jesus tells His apostles to go, make disciples, baptize and teach. This is the scripture that most people turn to in relation to the growth of the Kingdom. The expectation is that each of us is teaching and growing the Kingdom. This is your legacy!
“22 A good man leaves an inheritance to his grandchildren,
but the sinner’s wealth is stored up for the righteous”, Proverbs 13:22, CSB
Have you made plans for your legacy yet? What should you be saying/preparing for your grandchildren?
Have you seen the Disney movie Moana? It was released in 2016. Here’s the basic premise. The creator “god” was robbed. Her heart that holds the mystical powers of creation was stolen by a demi-god. Because of this theft, life was being drained from islands, trees, fish etc. Without this “heart”, she couldn’t maintain life, even to the extent that she became a monster.
I’m not simply recounting this movie for fun (though I have to admit I love it! My 3-year-old daughter and I have seen it at least 30 times). Over the many times I’ve seen this movie, it has occurred to me that though the movie is not theologically accurate there are many, many spiritual lessons to be learned here. If you haven’t seen it, I highly recommend it to you! I promise my synopsis doesn’t give too much away.
One of the lessons that glares at me through this movie is about parenting. Sometimes with the intent of protecting our children from harm, we hold them back from something to which they have been called by God or we push them in areas for which He has not equipped them. Moana’s father, the chief, as a teenager had longed to sail on the ocean. When he finally decided to sneak out and steal a boat, his best friend begged to go along. While out on the seas, Moana’s dad (he has no other name) hit rough seas and the boat capsized. This threw his buddy over into the sea, he eventually dies. With a past like that it’s easy to see why her dad wouldn’t want her on the sea.
The problem however is that the whole movie is about Moana and her calling. The ocean “god” chooses Moana when she’s just a toddler in the very beginning of the movie. We can’t allow our biases and fears to hold our children back. Just because this thing didn’t work out for you (or anyone you’ve ever known), doesn’t mean God hasn’t specifically equipped your child for that same task.
Let’s take a look at the call on someone’s life in scripture whose family probably wouldn’t have approved. Flip over to Acts 9:15,
“The Lord said to Ananias, ‘Go! I have chosen him to tell foreigners, kings, and the people of Israel about me. 16 I will show him how much he must suffer for worshiping in my name.’ “, CEV
Here we see God telling Ananias to, “GO!” place his hands on Saul and baptize him. Later in the book of Acts (after we’ve read about much of Paul’s ministry), he tells King Agrippa that he comes from a line of pharisees. Remember them? The group of Jewish religious leaders, many of whom opposed Jesus while He was in the flesh and then began persecuting His followers after He had returned back home. Paul (when he was Saul) was one of them. For the first almost half of the book of Acts he along with other pharisees sought to imprison and kill followers of Christ. But by the end of it he’s one of the prisoners being persecuted for Christ. Imagine if Saul had asked his parents’ opinion of joining up with these people of the Way? They probably would’ve lost their minds. But look at the end of Acts what Jesus says to Paul about his calling,
“15’Who are you?’ I asked.
Then the Lord answered, ‘I am Jesus! I am the one you are so cruel to. 16 Now stand up. I have appeared to you, because I have chosen you to be my servant. You are to tell others what you have learned about me and what I will show you later.’ “, Acts 26:15-16, CEV
Jesus had called Saul to be His servant! The call that God has placed on the life of my child is bigger than anything I could ever think or imagine. And even more importantly, God has a plan to move His agenda forward on this Earth. My child’s involvement in that movement is more important that what I can even see.
Lord, don’t allow me to stand in the way of Your calling on my babies’ lives. Help me remember, that its not my will but Yours that must be done. Thank You, Father for my babies!!
I can remember a gospel meeting from many many years ago. I was probably about 14. A minister from all the way in California came to lead it. To this day I can't quite remember his name, but what I do remember was electrifying! He recounted for us in grave, scientific and specific detail just what was physiologically going on with Christ during the last days of His life. He talked about how Christ suffered and what specifically He would have been feeling during the torture that led to His death. This one sermon has left an indelible mark upon me ever since. I suggest that all followers of Christ take some time to read or learn about the specifics of what this was.
Because I heard that sermon, there are times that I read through scripture and have to stop a moment. One of those times, happened when I read through Hebrews 12; especially verse 2. Here's what it says in the NIV,
"1 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 2 fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. 3 Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart."
Yup you read that right. Jesus considered the end result of your salvation to be worth His endurance of the cross to the extent that the Hebrew writer calls it joy! This is huge on its own. To think that He thought so much of my salvation that He'd be willing to endure such shame and agony moves my heart and strengthens my faith.
But as we studied this a thought came to mind. There are days for me (I'm sure for you as well), that I endure frustration and agony over my children. There are days that are pure drudgery. While definitely not anywhere near the same level of shame and agony that Christ endured, this passage is an encouragement to me. You see I think so highly of what Christ did for me, that I want His kingdom to continue growing exponentially. I know that one of the ways that I can do that is to encourage and equip my children to spend their lives in service to Him and the other image bearers that they meet.
"2 Through the praise of children and infants
you have established a stronghold against your enemies,
to silence the foe and the avenger.", Psalms 8:2, NIV
As I teach my children to praise the Lord, He establishes strongholds against the enemy! I want to be a part of that stronghold being built. I want my grandchildren's grandchildren to be still establishing that stronghold through praise of our great Creator! I want to encourage you to join me! Let's teach our children to praise like no one's watching! Let's teach our babies to praise His name at every turn!! And let's start by being the example of that praise!
I want to take a moment to tell you about an awesome group that I recently joined!! Mom’s in Prayer is an international organization whose mission is “Our vision is that every school in the world would be covered with prayer.” I think this is so cool. Once a week a group of moms at my child’s school join together to pray over the school, the faculty and staff, each child and their families! Imagine if every school had a group of prayer warriors! Imagine the changes that we’d see! (Acts 12 comes to mind!)
The first time I joined these moms, I was blown away. Think about the things you know are happening in your school through different conversations you have with teachers, staff, other parents or your child. What if there was a group of people who came together consistently to cover each of those issues (good or bad) in prayer! Whose life could be changed? Whose eyes may be opened to Christ’s undying love for them? Whose health could be healed?? SUCH a cool idea!! It is such a blessing to know that when I send my child off to school, he’s headed somewhere that has been lifted up to the throne room of the Creator.
If you are interested in joining a Mom’s in Prayer group near you, you can use this link <https://impactroster.momsinprayer.org/public/group-info>.
But what if you are a working parent without the time to commit to meeting each week during the school day? Have no fear! How about a family prayer night where you specifically lift up your teachers, principals, counselors, janitors, coaches, students and their families in prayer? What a testament to our children! What a great way to show your children how to interact with the people around them!
Be on the lookout for opportunities to cover the areas you frequent with consistent prayer!
Ok, so maybe you don't work in the local school system and maybe you don't lead Sunday school classes. That doesn't mean you don't teach.
Education doesn't only take place in a classroom. Much of it happens around kitchen tables or in cars through the rear view mirror. So much of our learning in life is not a formal effort. So I'll repeat it again, don't fool yourself into believing you aren't a teacher.
I've heard it said, "Christianity isn't a product to consume (think Sunday morning activities), but rather a lifestyle to live out." If this is true, then what's happening around your kitchen table on a random Thursday afternoon is just as important as what your child will hear from the pulpit on Sunday morning. We also know that the consistent conversations around your kitchen table will carry more weight in the long run than what's mentioned from the pulpit.
Let's open some scripture. Flip over to Matthew 28:19-20.
"18 Jesus came to them and said:
I have been given all authority in heaven and on earth!
19 Go to the people of all nations and make them my disciples. Baptize them in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit,
20 and teach them to do everything I have told you. I will be with you always, even until the end of the world." Matthew 28:19-20, HCSB
You may have heard this before. It's commonly referred to as the Great Commission. This is when Jesus gives His disciples their instructions on life after He's gone. Their job is to go replicate what He did in their lives within the lives of many many others.
This scripture is often examined during discipleship discussions; as it should be. The part that doesn't always get as much coverage is the fact that He tells them to be teaching. This command was not just for the disciples with Him then, but also for us as well.
So the question isn't, "Are you a teacher?"; but rather, "What are you teaching??".
Ok, let me start with an apology about the title. I promise I’m not about to get political. Please stick with me!!
Let me start with the backstory. While I was in college, I had a friend who got pregnant. Having grown up in a Christian environment, she knew to be shell shocked and embarrassed. She called me not too long after she left her appointment. I asked if she wanted me to go with her to tell her parents because my assumption was that of course she was going to have the baby. I was the one shell shocked when she told me that she and her boyfriend had already decided to abort. She went on to tearfully tell me that she was terrified of what her church family among others would say. Having grown up in this church family, she knew all too well what the whispers would sound like once they all found out. Sadly, I’m sure you do too. (There's another lesson to be had here too. The one place that people should know they can turn when they've messed up, is among God's people. They should always feel as if we are going to support and love on them as we've been loved by a perfect Savior.)
Let’s take a look at scripture. Flip over to Psalms 127:3,
"3Children are a blessing
and a gift from the Lord."
I have encountered nowhere in scripture where God says He’s punishing someone by making them a parent. On the other hand, there are a number of places where children are described as blessings.
This is what I believe God has been showing me with this memory of mine. Children aren’t the only blessings that He gives. Do you recognize all your blessings as such? Or like my sweet friend, do you see a blessing as a disruption to your plans that needs to be removed? Everyone’s story is different, but one thing I know is that He has blessed you with something. Do you always see it as a blessing? Maybe it’s a job that initially looked perfect for you but now is full of demands you didn’t anticipate. Perhaps He had you move across country (or maybe just across town) and away from your support group in an effort to grow you.
There are days that I don’t see His children in my home as blessings from above. (Then I peek in on them while they’re sleep and I smile.) There are days that laundry is piling up like a skyscraper going up in a bustling downtown. There are days that I feel pulled in every direction but right with no time to get anywhere. There are days that I am just counting the minutes/hours until nap time just to get a break. Its in these moments that I have taken my eye off the prize…. God’s glory! Just like God told Abraham,
"17 The Lord said to himself, “I should tell Abraham what I am going to do, 18 since his family will become a great and powerful nation that will be a blessing to all the other nations on earth. 19 I have chosen him to teach his family to obey me forever and to do what is right and fair. If they do, I will give Abraham many descendants, just as I promised.”, Genesis 18:17-19, CEV
He was blessed so that he could bless others. In other words, Abraham was given a blessing so that his obedience and the family that came from his obedience would bless all the other nations on earth!! I was blessed with two beautifully sweet children so that my obedience would become a blessing to those around me, namely those two little souls. With what were you blessed? Time? Health? Wealth? Kids? No kids?
This week’s challenge is to recognize your blessings for what they are. We have a loving, caring compassionate God who is ready and willing to bless you freely within His will.
We are grateful to you for all the many blessings you have sent our way. This includes the ones who call us dad or mom. Especially in the hard times, help us to remember this!
Do you know who Rahab was? She is listed in the Faith Hall of Fame, Hebrews 11.
“By faith Rahab the prostitute received the spies in peace and didn’t perish with those who disobeyed.” Hebrews 11:31, HCSB
However, we first meet her in the second chapter of the book of Joshua.
“Joshua son of Nun secretly sent two men as spies from the Acacia Grove, saying, ‘Go and scout the land, especially Jericho.’ So they left, and they came to the house of a woman, a prostitute named Rahab, and stayed there.” Joshua 2:1, HCSB
Joshua had sent these spies over into Jericho to spy out the city. Rahab lived in Jericho and hid the spies from her king so they were able to return to Joshua. She did this because she had heard of what God had done on behalf of the Israelites against other cities. While some of her neighbors had learned of these things and began to cower in fear (which eventually led to their ruin), she had begun to have faith. It is through this faith that we come to learn of her.
Flip over to James 2:24-26. In a discussion about righteousness and faith, James brings up her name and says,
“24You see that a man is justified by works and not by faith alone. 25And in the same way, wasn’t Rahab the prostitute also justified by works when she received the messengers and sent them out by a different route? 26For just as the body without the spirit is dead, so also faith without works is dead.” James 2:24-26, HCSB
Now you would think that all this time later, she could just be Rahab, right? I mean she did the Children of Israel a solid and then spent the rest of her life among them. But James still refers to her along with her profession. I mean we don’t ever see people say, “Jesus the carpenter” or “Paul the tentmaker”, but here we see her still discussed as a prostitute. I think this is indicative of the difference in how we see our neighbors versus how God sees them. Here we are thousands of years later still seeing her as a prostitute.
Let’s find out how God sees her.
“1The historical record of Jesus Christ, the Son of David, the Son of Abraham: ………. 5Salmon fathered Boaz by Rahab, Boaz fathered Obed by Ruth, Obed fathered Jesse,” Matthew 1:1,5 HCSB
Not only did Rahab go on to became the great grandmother of Israel’s 2nd greatest king (David), but she is in the family line of God’s Son!! There are two big points here for us as parents. First, we have to be sure that our children are able to look past people’s pasts and see the faith they’re operating in today, no matter how immature or imperfect that faith is. Secondly, we have to be sure that our children know that even if (or when) they get into trouble and mess up, not only do they still have a place in our lives, hearts and families but more importantly they still have a place in the kingdom of God!!
Thank you, Lord for seeing us for who we will be and not the mess that we are currently in!